- Pain is so common yet complex and critical for human survival (learned behaviors)
- Pain is hard to explain (hurt vs. harm -- invisible vs. visible)
- Pain changes (its duration fluctuates -- moment to moment -- various levels)
- Pain may make you a survivor (it can build up your resiliency)
- Sometimes there's no other option but to push through (growing pains)
How To Overcome Pain
Think about exercise training for a moment, specifically bench pressing. Pain is a lot like this activity.
When bench pressing, only one person can fit on the bench at a time (i.e., often you'll be the only person experiencing the pain).
Also, the flat black circumstances of the bench build your focus upward. If the bar is pressed all the way down on you, then you can still see all the weight but you ultimately force yourself to look pass what you are lifting (i.e., look pass the bar) and convince yourself to lift it off of you.
Pain (e.g., trials and tribulations) teach you how to get things off of you. In terms of bench pressing, you have to train on your back to get strong enough to get things off of you while standing upright.
This is a really tough exercise and no one has ever been considered weak for yelling while lifting ... only if they dropped the weight (i.e., don't give up in a painful process).
When the weight becomes too much to bear, bench pressers tend to yell out "spot me", which is a call for help to more experienced bench pressers (i.e., these people have often already experienced similar pain; they've been there before, can encourage you and say motivating things like "you got one more in ya"). You can never make without these people. So, don't forget to thank them.
- Don't expect comfort from others. (If they aren't best friends, family members or professionals then refrain because you may incur more pain due to rejection; expect nothing but appreciate everything)
- Btw, music can relieve pain. (The improvement of physical wellbeing through music isn't only about perceived pain relief. Studies show that playing music for patients before, during, and after medical procedures can help lower blood pressure, reduce anxiety and stress, ease muscle tension, and more). Try the following song: